It is safe to say that I don't really communicate with my brother. I rarely call him and he only calls me if he needs something. Whenever something happens between him and his girlfriend they call my mum. And she in turn calls me. Why? I don't know. What exactly does she want me to do about it? My brother is 10 years older than me, he's a grown ass man. He should be able to handle his own shit. I don't want to get involved, but my mum keeps telling me about his drama.
A couple weeks ago he and his girlfriend got into an argument and she threw him out of the house. Apparently the police were called as well. As I wasn't there I can't say what happened but I do know that my brother has been violent with her in the past, so lord only knows what happened this time. So anyway my brother left before the police arrived. So right now I believe the police are looking to "talk" to him. So right now he is renting a room from his friend's dad. Do I feel sorry for him? No I don't. He got himself into that mess. My brother had his own flat. He lived 2 minutes away from his girlfriend's house. They lived on the same street!!!! There was really no reason to give up his flat and move into that girl's house. Then he would start complaining that all his money went to her and she didn't do anything. Well if that was the case then you should have stayed in your own spot. Then they would argue, something would pop off and he'd get flung out. Then they'd make up and do it all over again. Every time something went wrong they'd call my mum and then she'd call me and my sister.
So after this last episode my mum is calling me asking if I've called him and expecting me and my sister to look after him. My sister went and bought him food and stuff. Against my judgment I bought him some new bed linen and stuff. I tried to be nice and call and check on him but he's in this pit of self pity and i can't be bothered anymore. I invited him over for dinner, he didn't come. My sister told me that he's said he's depressed. I can understand he's sad, he and his girlfriend have been together for 7 years. But if he doesn't change his attitude and get some help for his anger they have no chance. But my brother's problem is that he never thinks he's wrong. He always blames it on someone else. Nothing is ever his fault. So I am tired of talking and can't be arsed to chase after him anymore. If he wants to sit around feeling sorry for himself then so be it.
To the outside world, that may seem harsh, but you can't help someone that doesn't want your help.
A couple weeks ago he and his girlfriend got into an argument and she threw him out of the house. Apparently the police were called as well. As I wasn't there I can't say what happened but I do know that my brother has been violent with her in the past, so lord only knows what happened this time. So anyway my brother left before the police arrived. So right now I believe the police are looking to "talk" to him. So right now he is renting a room from his friend's dad. Do I feel sorry for him? No I don't. He got himself into that mess. My brother had his own flat. He lived 2 minutes away from his girlfriend's house. They lived on the same street!!!! There was really no reason to give up his flat and move into that girl's house. Then he would start complaining that all his money went to her and she didn't do anything. Well if that was the case then you should have stayed in your own spot. Then they would argue, something would pop off and he'd get flung out. Then they'd make up and do it all over again. Every time something went wrong they'd call my mum and then she'd call me and my sister.
So after this last episode my mum is calling me asking if I've called him and expecting me and my sister to look after him. My sister went and bought him food and stuff. Against my judgment I bought him some new bed linen and stuff. I tried to be nice and call and check on him but he's in this pit of self pity and i can't be bothered anymore. I invited him over for dinner, he didn't come. My sister told me that he's said he's depressed. I can understand he's sad, he and his girlfriend have been together for 7 years. But if he doesn't change his attitude and get some help for his anger they have no chance. But my brother's problem is that he never thinks he's wrong. He always blames it on someone else. Nothing is ever his fault. So I am tired of talking and can't be arsed to chase after him anymore. If he wants to sit around feeling sorry for himself then so be it.
To the outside world, that may seem harsh, but you can't help someone that doesn't want your help.
